Ezine Issue 104 Loving messages to YOU!

October 18th, 2014

Loving messages to YOU!

Quote: “The more I know you, the more I love you.”  Author unknown

I was on a Women’s Faith Retreat this past weekend and I left there wishing I had pulled a few people aside and given them the love I know they needed.  I wish I would have shared kind words for them to know they are enough, the support to know they have come a long way and the compassion to know they are doing the best they can.  There was not always time to offer what I felt in my heart, but I should have tried more diligently to make that connection.  Since I did not get to the opportunity to share these messages with the women on the retreat, I am going to share the overall message with you.

I know everyday, each of you is in search of something, whether it is being a better person, parenting more effectively, being a better friend, finding the strength and courage to face your challenges or something else entirely.  Whatever it is, I want everyone to sit still for a moment and truly acknowledge just how far you have come.  Think about where you were 20 years ago, just a few years ago, a few days ago and now.  Has there been growth?  Have you changed?  Have you expanded your awareness in some way?  We each need to give ourselves the credit we deserve for growing, learning and becoming exactly who we are today.  I am not saying the person you are right now is the best you will become, but you have each been on a journey and that journey has brought you to this exact moment.  You are truly where you need to be, for you, in this moment.

So many women are living in guilt and beat themselves up for each mistake they make.  The past shapes everything about their present and their future.  There is no forgiveness for themselves or others.  They are letting guilt and negativity, instead of love, lead them into their future.   But, what if each mistake can be viewed as an opportunity for you to learn about who you truly are and what if things show up at exactly the right time for each of you?  If you believe in God or a Higher Power and that power is all-knowing and all good, then why is it so hard to grasp the fact that He created you and you are His perfection.  In this moment right now, you are perfect.  You truly are!  Can you sit with your perfection for just a moment?  Close your eyes, take a deep breath and connect with the amazing person you are on the inside.

Let’s expand on this a step further.  If love is the highest vibration and you should approach everything from love, why is it so hard to look inside and find love for the person you are, for the person you used to be, and for the person you are becoming.  It all starts on the inside.  If you are searching for something in your life, let the search start inside of you.  Let the love start inside of you and let it pour from you to reach others.   You truly are amazing just because you are YOU!

Questions:
-Can you allow the journey to unfold at its own pace without your constraints and ideas about when things should happen?
-Can you allow your true perfection to work its way to the surface?
-Can you embrace the perfection that you are in this moment?
-Will you look inside and find forgiveness for yourself?
-Can you embrace and love all of you?

Fieldwork:
Let the journey begin on the inside.  Look inside to find love for all of YOU.  Forgive where you need to forgive, acknowledge yourself for you accomplishments and continue your journey with love and compassion for yourself and each person you encounter.  Start inside and spread the light to everyone around you!

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Ezine Issue 101 Blessings of Opposites

July 18th, 2014

 

Quote:  John Steinbeck- “What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness?”

As always, life is a journey and this morning as I was on my journey, a few things from my past kept popping up.  In my rational mind, I have forgiven others and myself and I have worked through all of my past issues but I was presented with a very valuable lesson that I want to share with you.

It all started with some stomach issues and I pulled out a book from Louise Hay about how ailments show up because of emotional ills.   I went through my list of ailments and looked up the possible links to my emotional well-being and a few of them resonated with me.

As I worked on letting go of these old feelings of fear, unworthiness and insecurity that were rising to the surface I kept wondering why they were showing up and how they could offer me a benefit.  I know if you have ever been hurt or have felt negative emotions, it is hard to imagine there is a benefit to those feelings, but for me there truly is a blessing in everything I have ever been through.

So, what is the blessing?

In life to completely understand one thing, it helps to know the opposite.

If I did not know vulnerability, I would not fully understand and appreciate security.
If I did not know guilt, I would not be able to completely understand freedom.
If I did not experience unworthiness, I would not be able to comprehend being worthy.

My list could go on and on but my hope is that you will add some of your past/present feelings to the list and find the blessing in experiencing one thing so you can know the opposite.

Questions:
-How can you find the blessing in your past experiences?
-What emotions keep showing up for you?
-Is there a benefit to experiencing one emotion so you can experience the opposite more fully?
-What negative feelings/emotions show up most often?
-What are the opposites of those feelings?

Fieldwork:
Look at any negative emotions that are bubbling up for you.  What is the opposite emotion?  Can you find peace in knowing that you went through or you are going through that experience so that you may truly experience the opposite?

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

A Simple Smile Ezine Issue 101

July 15th, 2014

A Simple Smile

Quote:  Mother Theresa “We shall never know all the good a simple smile can do.”

How can a simple smile affect you?  When you smile, it changes your attitude.  When you smile to others, it changes them too.  Let’s smile more and give others and yourself a boost!!

Want to hear more about the affects of a simple smile?  Watch this 2 minute video tip to learn more!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RPPJhTKb9A

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Ego Ezine Issue 100

July 5th, 2014

Ego

Quote:  Deepak Chopra “We must go beyond the constant clamor of ego, beyone the tools of logic and reason, to the still, clam place within us: the realm of the soul.”

I hope you all had a great 4th of July and were able to spend time celebrating with friends and family!!  It is always great to get some time off to enjoy life!  The past few weeks what has been showing up for me the most is my EGO.  Lessons for me and messages about ego have been everywhere.  I continually work on living an egoless life, and while it seems simple enough, it is a work in progress for me. If someone gives me advice, my initial reaction is usually ego based.  If someone tells me something I don’t want to hear, my first thoughts come from my ego.  If I get upset about something, I can immediately recognize my ego wanting to taking over.  Does this ever happen to you?

Why does it matter?  Well, your ego is around to protect you and it shows up when you feel threatened or insecure.  It jumps in to make sure you are taken care of and your ego wants you to be right at any cost.  So, while protecting you, it can cause you to react in a way that may not be true.  It can cause you to take things personally or think someone is doing something on purpose when they are not.  It can lead you down the wrong path and it can have you feeling hurt and upset when that is not the most accurate reaction.  It can create a misunderstanding of others intentions when no one is purposely trying to harm you.

So, while your ego may have been helpful in certain circumstances, it is important to recognize when it is taking over and creating a mountain out of a molehill.  The first step in trying to live without your ego jumping in is to begin to recognize when this happens.  When you get upset, evaluate the situation and see if your reaction is warranted or if you are reacting to make yourself look and feel better.  If you begin to recognize your reactions as ego based, you can then begin to work through why your ego is causing you to react this way.  Did the situation make you feel insecure, wrong, stupid or inadequate?  Is that truly what someone intended?  If not, how can you remove your ego and react just to the situation and not to the feelings it caused.

Our ego’s normal reaction is to protect us from all those feelings of inadequacy, but if we can begin to remove our ego and react in a way that each situation truly warrants, we can begin to find more harmony and peace in our lives.   Are you up for the challenge?

Questions:    
-Do you ever over-react?
-Do you take things personally?
-Does your ego cause you to react before you think?
-How can you recognize when your ego is controlling your reactions?
-What feelings cause your ego to come out?

Fieldwork:    
Think about your reactions to different situations.  Is your reaction ego based?  If so, what feelings caused your ego to take over?  How can you face your feelings and understand those feelings do not define you as a person?  Next time you feel your ego taking over, choose a different reaction.  Stop and think things through before reacting.

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye

Embracing Your Differences

June 23rd, 2014

Ezine Issue 99

Embracing Your Differences

Quote:  Audre Lorde- “It is not our differences that divide us, It is our inability to recognize, accept and celebrate those differences.”

How can we shift to a place where we truly embrace our differences?  Can we appreciate the things that make us unique and those that make others unique as well?

Today’s 2 minute Tip is about Embracing Your Differences.  Watch the short video to learn more.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9W6UJh08ldw

Enjoy the journey!
Coach Gaye



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